The Adventure Continues: Helping Kids Navigate Relocation with Confidence
Relocating can be an exciting adventure for kids, it can also be a daunting experience. My kids were at a very young age when we moved from the United Kingdom to the United States. They made friends and settled seamlessly into our small community. Their British accent changed to American; before we knew it, they were asking for ‘chips’ instead of ‘crisps’ and ‘cookie’ instead of ‘biscuit’…lol
My son was on the track team and he was well known for his athletic abilities. Then it was time to move again. It was exciting at first, getting to our new location, I guess it dawned on him later what he left behind…
A quote I love from John Maxwell – Change is constant. Growth is optional butresses the fact that navigating change is a given. Whether in the home, career, business, ministry, there is always going to be a point where we navigate change.
Clearly explain to your children the reasons behind the move, where you’re going, and what to expect. Transparency helps alleviate uncertainty and gives children a sense of control over the situation. Use age-appropriate language and provide concrete examples to help them understand. By being clear and straightforward, you lay the foundation for open and honest communication throughout the transition process.
I came to the conclusion that these 3 things are important in change management.
- Communicate – Let Them Know You HEAR Them
- Communicate again – Let Them Know You SEE Them
- Communicate more – Let Them Know You are HERE for Them
Communicate: Let Them Know You HEAR Them
When communicating change to kids, it’s essential to start by actively listening to their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Create a safe space where they feel comfortable expressing themselves without judgment or interruption. Listen with empathy and attention, validating their emotions and acknowledging their perspective. By showing that you hear and understand them, you lay the groundwork for open and honest communication throughout the transition.
Communicate: Let Them Know You SEE Them
In addition to listening, it’s important to show children that you see them and recognize their unique experiences and needs. Take the time to observe their behavior, body language, and verbal cues to gain insight into how they’re coping with the change. Offer reassurance, validation, and encouragement based on what you observe. Let them know that their feelings are valid and that you are there to support them every step of the way. By acknowledging their individuality and affirming their feelings, you help children feel seen and understood during times of uncertainty.
Communicate: Let Them Know You Are HERE for Them
Finally, communicate to children that you are here for them, no matter what challenges or changes may arise. Reiterate your unconditional love, support, and commitment to their well-being. Assure them that you will navigate the transition together as a team and that they can always come to you with any questions, fears, or needs they may have. By demonstrating your availability and reliability, you provide children with a sense of security and stability amid the changes around them. Letting them know that you are here for them reinforces their trust in you and strengthens your bond as a family.
Hear them, See them, and Be there for them. I pray God gives you the grace and wisdom to navigate this season.
Cheering you on❤️
